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Many of my friends ask a lot of different questions of me, especially lately. I went camping a few weeks ago, and the weekend seemed to turn into a gay documentary, which was both hilarious and liberating. I've noticed, though that the questions are often centered around a common misconception, and I'll simply call it "The Phase"
No one wakes up one day and says to them self "Self, today...I'm gonna like guys." At the same token, many gay people often try waking up straight, only to find disappointment. There is no magic pill. To the conservative, I would also say this: There is no choice in how I feel. Period. Of course, we can agree that what I, or anyone else, DO with our feelings IS a choice. But the choice for me is clear: go thru the steps of settling down with someone, or die lonely. Simple as that. Being with a woman is simply not an option for me.
The other thing people ask about is often related to identity. There is a stereotype that exists within the gay community of being flamboyant, feminine and "prissy." And I won't lie, there's a reason for the stereotype. However, there are many gay people out there that "act" straight as an arrow. Most people would never know of their orientation. But the question you should ask yourself is: Does it matter?
Thanks for reading...
John
That misconception is what kept me in the closet, living the lie, for so many years. I thought that if I embraced who I was and what I was feeling, suddenly I would have the urge to stand on a pride float in nothing by a jock and a feather boa... yeah, good luck getting that image out of your head.
ReplyDeleteIt wasn't until I realized that I was who I was and shucking the lie was going to be liberating... and I haven't bought a boa yet.
I've always wondered why people think that people who are gay just decide one day "I really feel like being ridiculed, hated, beat up, mocked, and discriminated against. That sounds like a good idea today." It just doesn't make sense.
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